the skin i’m in

As I edged my way towards my teen years, Helen Reddy’s song, “I Am Woman”, was adopted as the anthem of the Women’s Lib movement, catapulting it to  the top of the music charts. This conflagration of events ignited my mother’s rebellion against my father’s restrictions. The irony of my mother's name being 'Helen' here … Continue reading the skin i’m in

gag reflex

As a child, I decided not to lie — at least not intentionally. It sounded like a good idea at the time. You see, I’d noticed that no matter how well I thought I was covering up whatever it was I was trying to hide, the grown ups always seemed to know when I wasn’t … Continue reading gag reflex

con game

In my previous post, I referred to “the Voice”, the whispered wisdom that I hear in the deepest recesses of my mind, distinguishable from all other thoughts, each with their own personalities. The Voice has been my inner navigation system — my GPS, if you will. But I’m not going to talk about “the Voice” … Continue reading con game

unacceptable

I didn't count on this showing up. If I did, I might not have done it. Maybe it’s best that I didn’t know. I might have chickened out. I’ve done it before, you know. What began as an experiment — immersing myself in being fully visible, without a mask to hide behind by way of … Continue reading unacceptable

only words

I’ve become fascinated, admittedly bordering on obsessed, with TED Talks regarding self image, concepts of beauty, and self esteem. A theme has emerged over the course of this project, which I will be exploring more deeply during the remainder of this month’s blogging challenge. There is literally more to it than meets the eye, which … Continue reading only words

seven days

Cesca has shared with me a BuzzFeed video blog that she found on FaceBook of a young woman who went for a week without make up. I watched it with interest, having had many similar experiences. I even laughed out loud when a co-worker who remarked at her looking tired since that is what I've … Continue reading seven days

no judgment

During the course of this month’s blogging, I briefly noted the effects of external influences on our sense of self, how we perceive our value to society, and our basic sense of worthiness as a human being. (https://donnacerame.com/2014/11/16/more-than-meets-the-eye/) I admit, I paused before pressing ‘publish’ on that post. Having gone my entire life not making … Continue reading no judgment

visage

Reflections show they are meant to see not me. Instead a mask I create to hide. And me, not knowing I am beneath the shallow visage smiling back at me. An image of someone I know not. If perchance our paths meet I should pass her by, never knowing she’s me. 3.1.76 Copyright 2014 by Donna Cerame. … Continue reading visage

showing up

Woody Allen is famously quoted as saying,  "Eighty percent of success is showing up."  From what I can tell about this NaBloPoMo and NaNoWriMo, he's on to something. I've read my share of blogs and books in my time, but I've never had the experience that I've had as this month, as we all enter … Continue reading showing up

more than meets the eye

As with so much else in our society, one’s sense of worth is derived from without, rather than from within. We often find ourselves defined by what we do and what we have, not who we are at the core of our being. I suspect this is a source of much pain for so many … Continue reading more than meets the eye